New York Times Magazine article for discussion
"The Trouble with Wanting Men" :: "Women are so fed up with dating men that the phenomenon even has a name: heterofatalism. So what do we do with our desire?"
Good evening.
A reader sent me this a little while ago. I’m curious your response, if you could peel back a few layers and tell me what you think is going on.
The article does not need to be a novella at 5,500 words and I don’t imagine many people have time to read it — but you may have the interest. I would be curious to see quotations you think are salient added in the comments.
Astrology fans might recognize this scenario as something related to Chiron conjunct Eris in Aries.
I think whatever is being described in this article is part of a much wider problem that is not being called out for what it is; and in my long experience with the newspaper, The New York Times can have a limited perspective (especially on social issues). But in its own strange way, it is a newspaper of record.
It was only seven years ago that there were a whole other set of complaints about men (landing on page one of the Times every day for 18 months running) — and there has been no attempt to reconcile these two hemispheres of consciousness. Both have the same underlying ground field.
The most interesting thing about this article is what’s missing.
Thank you for participating in this discussion.
With love,
Your faithful astrologer,
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READER COMMENT:
Wow. I can't even read very much of this right now. What's missing is the man's perspective and any sense of equality within natural differences. How much more one-dimensional can a man be painted?
To the Times:
Re Jean Gannet’s recent article in the magazine, I want to know part of your editorial policy allows for the public advocacy of misandry and heterophobia:
<< It must be mildly embarrassing to be a straight man, and it is incumbent upon each of them to mitigate this embarrassment in a way that feels authentic to him. >>
How is this a statement that comports with your sensitivity policy, which I assume you have? Or are “straight men” omitted just like we are from the rainbow flag?
The writer (who plays with prominent, public visual imagery akin to incest with her sister, sitting in what is called yab-yum intercourse position, see below) is pleading to know why men are not interested in her — the same men she says should be embarrassed to be men?
The same men whom the Times excoriated as predators for 18 months on page one during the #metoo era from late 2017 into early 2019?
Where were the men quoted in this article to respond to this? Did any “straight man” read this before it went to press? I get the image of a features department staffed with women and queers like Marie Claire. I am probably not far from the truth.
The Times has bared its ass on its bigotry toward heterosexual men, which in some form can be found in the newspaper several times a week.
But this is truly outrageous.
I must ask, speaking as a professional editor of long standing: what is wrong with you people? This is on the level of needing a psych eval.
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Eric F. Coppolino
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